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My Daughter, The Writer

“We worry about what a child will become tomorrow, yet we forget that child is someone today.”

- Stacia Tauscher

**originally posted in 2006 **

We were hanging out with our homeschooling friends one afternoon and my daughter Jacqueline was sitting on one of the picnic tables, finishing a story (Princess Barbie) she had started a few days before.

I was having a conversation with another homeschooling mom and she asked what Jacqueline was doing. When I told her she said
something to the effect of “Maybe she’ll be a writer when she grows up”. To which I replied, “She already is a writer”. She paused (and you could see the light bulb going off) as she thought about that, and said “Yes! She is a writer”.

That little shift in thinking has been very helpful to me in unschooling my kids. What she’s doing now is valid and important, not because it may help her when she becomes an adult, not because she may choose that as her career, but because it brings her joy and makes her happy now, right now. She is not an “adult in the making”. She’s exactly where she should be.

So without further ado, here is Jacqueline’s story. She is already working on her second one, which I’ll post when she’d done.

Princess Barbie
by Jacqueline Anne (a 7 year old unschooler)

I love being a princess.” Said Barbie.

Barbie’s tutor came in and said “Princess the queen sent for you”. “Where is she?” said Barbie. “In the throne room” said Ken. Barbie went to the Throne room.
There the queen sat. “Come my dear” said the queen. Barbie hugged the queen. Barbie was surprise to see royal page.

Soon Barbie was heading back to her room when she heard a cry. It was the royal page yelling invader!
“Invader?” asked the princess.
“Yes” said the royal page. “We must hide” said royal page.
So they hid. The invaders lost. They were safe.
The Royal page was nice.

The End.

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21 Responses to “My Daughter, The Writer”

  1. I I have learned nurturing our children is so very important! I love the whole process Smile

    .-= Moms Work at Home´s last blog ..Writing As A Work At Home Mom =-.

  2. The quotation which heads your piece is perfect. Our institutional forms of education are not built around the child as “someone” but one of many of the same.
    .-= John McGeough´s last blog ..The Practice of Learning…the cultivation of the child =-.

  3. So right. We always hear people say to children what they think they will be when they grow up. We do often forget that a child is in fact something right now. And, that something is very, very delicate. We have to really choose our words well. Thanks for a great post.
    .-= John McGeough´s last blog ..Keeping up with your home schooled child while you are away… =-.

  4. morkies says:

    Hey I see you moved from blogspot to wordpress. I did the same with my blog, good luck, hope you like it!

  5. I loved this post. I have 2 daughters that are budding writers and it is so fun to see what they come up with. I love encouraging this kind of creativity. I, too, tell my children that age is nothing to accomplishments. If you sew you are a seamstress, if you write you are a writer and everyone can always improve on whatever they are learning. Good post!!
    .-= Learning Treasures Homeschooling Resources´s last blog ..Apple Dumpling Kids Printable Pack =-.

  6. Excellent post. Young people are far, far more able than many people believe. The vast majority of the problems that we have with young people is because we keep young adults in the trap of childhood.
    .-= John McGeough´s last blog ..The role of responsibility in single parent homeschools… =-.

  7. Neely says:

    WOW! That hit a chord in me. Don’t focus on who they will become but who they are now.
    I still sometimes struggle. It is an inner struggle. I believe it comes from years of being told that children need to know x by this time. It comes from years of my schooling and possibly not measuring up. It comes from society, commercials, teachers, family and the list goes on. Thank you for giving me something to work with. I do stand back but inside I am right beside them, prodding them to learn more. Learn faster. I need my inner self to feel the same way as I act. Relax. Thank you from a fellow unschooler Smile

  8. Barbara says:

    What a gem. Thanks for reminding me of something that you’d think would be obvious, but is surprisingly easy to forget!
    .-= Barbara´s last blog ..A surprise from the garden. =-.

  9. Cassi says:

    I love this reminder to live in the present and that our kids are valid human beings as they currently are. I have a 7 month old son and he, like all of us, is and is becoming.

  10. Angie Wright says:

    That is one of my favorite quotes. I’ve enjoyed reading your blog today!

  11. Natalie says:

    Thanks for your post. I wrote a post today to remind me about what I’m trying to achieve too and where I’ve not been too good at it this week. It helps. Smile

    I get that my kids are what they are today but I have to keep working on that script that says “oh, she’s good with numbers” because she’s spent a day enjoying them, or “he’s got a talent for …” because he had a try at something and picked it up easily. It’s sometimes tricky to stay in the present and not try to extrapolate it to a whole future (or even to tomorrow!).

    My whole childhood was about preparing for some future time. I always worried, what if I died young and never got to the good stuff? Now I do the good stuff every day and even try to look at the necessary but not naturally as fun stuff (read: washing up) from a good stuff perspective too.

  12. Jen says:

    I just found your blog today and am thrilled! This is only one of many great posts I’ve enjoyed. Thanks for writing!

  13. love says:

    Parents are really influential to every child. Really helpful thoughts, thanks for sharing.
    .-= love´s last blog ..Monday Morning =-.

  14. Kez says:

    Thanks for the reminder. Great story too!
    .-= Kez´s last blog ..Wednesday Weigh-In – Wk 24 =-.

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  16. Joanne says:

    I think we all do. Smile I told Jacqueline that you enjoyed her story. Thanks!

  17. Shannon says:

    Wow, great post and a lovely story. I definitely need to work more on “the moment.”

  18. Joanne says:

    Yes, that’s exactly it. That shift in thinking helps me to live in this moment, which is something I try to remember to do.

  19. Sally says:

    HI Joanne,
    I’ve been getting to grips with the “my child is…” rather than “could be…” issue in my community (and myself). It is a lovely shift to make and helps me to live in the here and now, and allow her to continue to naturally do so too!

    Best wishes

  20. Joanne says:

    I wish I could remember it all the time also. That’s why I posted this…as a reminder for myself. It’s not easy.

  21. Anna B says:

    Great point. I wish I could remember that every second of every day.

    I vow to work on this.

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