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A Child That Has Freedom Of Choice

*originally posted 1/2009* Let me tell you about a ten year old child that had freedom of choice. That child is my daughter Jacqueline. I hear all the time…”If I let my kids have freedom over their food, they’ll eat chips all day” or “If I let my child have freedom over video games, they’ll play 24 hours a day”. Sure….if all they know is control and someone else making their...

Soulful Fathering

One of the members at my adoption forums shared this with us a while back. I thought these these tips would be helpful to any parent (not just dads) who may be looking for a more respectful and gentle way of parenting. Soulful Fathering 1. Listen to your heart when you are with your kids. Go with what feels right, not what your dad might have done or what you think fathers are supposed to do. You are the perfect match for...

My Daughter, The Writer

“We worry about what a child will become tomorrow, yet we forget that child is someone today.” - Stacia Tauscher **originally posted in 2006 ** We were hanging out with our homeschooling friends one afternoon and my daughter Jacqueline was sitting on one of the picnic tables, finishing a story (Princess Barbie) she had started a few days before. I was having a conversation with another homeschooling mom and she asked...

Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves

Every parent would happily give up ever scolding, punishing or threatening if she only knew how to ensure that her toddler/child/teen would thrive and act responsibly without such painful measures. Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves by Naomi Aldort is the answer to this universal wish. It is not about gentle ways to control a child, but about a way of being and of understanding a child so she/he can be the best of...

Everyday Blessings – The Inner Work of Mindf...

This is my all time favorite parenting book and it completely changed the way I view parenting when I read it in 2005. Myla & Jon Kabat-Zinn are parents to three grown children. Jon is the founder and director of the Stress Reduction Clinic and is the author of Wherever You Go, There You Are (another book I highly recommend). So what exactly is mindful parenting? Jon had this to say in an interview, “Mindfulness,...

Naomi Aldort

When we (here at this blog or on the unschooling lists) discuss extending the principles of unschooling into other area’s of our lives with our children, Naomi Aldort’s message is very helpful. Naomi does not teach parents how to “get kids to be/do…” but rather how to be with children so that they are free to be their own magnificent selves. Parents say that what they get out of Naomi’s...

Speaking With An Unschooled Child

There was a discussion, on one of my unschooling e-mail groups, about how extended family members seem to have a hard time finding something to say to a child, when they can’t ask about school. It’s like the only questions anybody can think of to ask a kid is “What grade are you in?”, “What’s your favorite subject?” and “How are you doing in school?” lol I’ve found...

Nurturing Your Teenager’s Soul

10 clear and practical principles for giving teens a much-needed moral and spiritual compass: Nurturing Your Teenagers Soul: A Practical Guide to Raising a Kind, Honorable, Compassionate Teen by Mimi Doe At a time when teens face overwhelming issues-the hazards of substance abuse, issues of sexuality, the stress of high school, the importance of getting into a good college-it’s no wonder that these years often become a...

Unschooling Freedom

Someone posted their concerns about unschooling freedom on an unschooling e-mail list I belong to: Although some kids might think an all day video-game, cookie eating, bath-free world would be fabulous, as a parent we know that would lead to illness in the short term, obesity in the long term. Obviously that’s an extreme example, but it makes the point. Here are two of the replies and as usual, Pam’s response was...

Being An Unschooling Parent

A large part of being a (successful) unschooling parent is being present and mindful with your children. Being involved in their lives. Because let’s face it, if you’re going to get rid of school, it should be replaced with something. That something should be you. One of the members of an unschooling e-mail list I belong to, wrote that she is having trouble being truly present with her kids. I’d like to...